While you are certainly not the first parent to ask this question, fortunately the resounding answer is “No!” All the research indicates that the opposite is true. Not only are children whose parents talk to them about healthy sexuality less likely to be promiscuous,
Note: This post contains religious content from The Church of Jesus Christ, to which I ascribe. Take what you like and leave the rest.
I have been derelict in posting about the newer website put out by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, entitled Addressing Pornography. I had the opportunity to assist in writing content for parts of this site. While you may not agree with every word posted, there are some wonderful resources here for parents seeking to protect their children, for those who struggle with porn use, and for betrayed spouses. I highly recommend checking it out and exploring what content connects with you.
Brittany Homer over at raisingtodayskids.com interviewed me as part of her recent podcast episode on the most important things parents should know about pornography. You can check it out with the link (for iTunes), listen on any other podcast app, or go to raisingtodayskids.com to listen on the website.
I will be recording a full episode with her next month about how parents can talk to their kids about sex. So stay tuned…
Come visit me at UCAP—the Utah Coalition Against Pornography. It’s the largest conference of its kind in the U.S. This year it is on February 22, at the Salt Palace, in SLC. This conference has topics for everyone including those struggling with pornography, to betrayed spouses, to parents looking to protect children, to teens and young adults. See their website for details and registration.
This year is exciting because I have been asked to speak! The subject I’ve been asked to address is Betrayal Trauma. You can find out more about that subject here on my website.
As usual, I will also have a booth at the conference for my book that helps parents teach their children about healthy sexuality. And I will be promoting course information on my new online live courses for betrayal trauma and for parents teaching children.
I hope to see you there!
Whenever your children approach you, or when you ask them about things they have experienced, it’s always important to keep in mind that children are like onions. When someone shares vulnerable information with another person, especially if they think highly of them, they are likely to share just a little at a time, layer by layer.
Let me answer your question with a true story. Recently I spoke with a grandmother. Her daughter and son-in-law had small children and had installed filters on their computers and phones. They thought their children were safe. Grandma and Grandpa didn’t think they needed to be educated or concerned about this topic. After all, they didn’t have pornography problems and never watched scandalous TV. Imagine their horror
Note: Today’s post will include Judeo-Christian stories that help parents talk to their children about inadvertent exposure. Take what you like and leave the rest.
Inadvertent exposure is an important discussion topic that helps children bust shame around coming into contact with pornography. It helps open space for children to come and talk to their parents about exposure to pornography.
I love to use two examples in Judeo-Christian heritage in having this discussion. The first is the story of
This page is a good place to emphasize your child’s connection to God and God’s love for them. It also emphasizes their connection to truth, which connects them to God. It helps them to see how truth brings happiness, peace, and God’s presence in their hearts.