I am so lucky to have been invited back to the UnashamedUnafraid Podcast. This time we focused on talking to our children about sex. Listen in and let me know your thoughts by email at firstname.lastname@example.org!
Category: Why Talk?
UnashamedUnafraid contacted me and asked me to come back on the podcast to help them with all the questions they were getting about how to talk to your children about healthy sexuality. It was so much fun to go in and see the crew and discuss a topic I’m so personally passionate about. We had a good time recording, and I’m excited to hear the end result when they publish it in October. So stay tuned for that.
Brittany and I had a miscommunication and I didn’t realize she had posted our podcast way back in May! I just got the chance to listen to it last weekend, Episode #25. It’s fabulous, and available anywhere you download your podcasts—or you can listen, or read the show notes here. I also listened to several other episodes, and I love them so much. Brittany has a wonderful way of bringing positivity and peace to difficult topics, which is exactly what we want as parents to be able to do. I highly recommend the entire podcast, and of course her website.
I recently had a friend ask how to combat the viewpoints of the state mandated sex education where she lived. “Won’t my children get confused if I’m telling them one thing and one of the main places they get their information and learning is telling them very different things?”
I explained that this is addressed more easily than you might think. The beginnings of it are addressed in the first Lies About Sex post, but this post takes a more religious tone. One of the main points I use when teaching parents how to talk with their kids about sex is the truth mingled with error concept. It goes something like this (for those who are non or less-religious, it is easy to remove or adjust those references):
God has made our bodies in really amazing ways to do amazing things. We are going to teach you about wonderful ways God made our bodies to work that can help us be happy and create wonderful relationships. Now Satan/The Adversary is always trying to teach people wrong or hurtful things. His favorite tactic is to say things that are partly true and partly lies. That really confuses people because they see the true part and think all of it is true. So some of the things we are going to tell you about your body are things a lot of people in the world don’t know. They will know how their body works, but they won’t understand why, and all the things God wants us to know about how to use them the best. They’ll know some of the truth, but it will be mixed with things that aren’t true. That’s why we are going to teach you the whole truth so you’ll know it and can outsmart Satan. This means you will know more than a lot of people and it will be something special you and mom and dad will have and can talk about. So we’ll teach you the truth, and when you see or hear about things that don’t match up, or don’t seem right, come tell us! We want to hear about those moments where you figured it out, or when you feel like something is sneaking in that isn’t true. We’ll be so proud of you for being able to notice what is true and what isn’t!
(Then as a parent you can use this concept you’ve already taught them to point out inaccurate or destructive messages during future teaching moments).
As is often the case approaching the summer, it’s been a scramble to plan activities and vacations. I finally have my summer course schedules finalized!
- Teaching Children Healthy Sexuality (Non-Denominational) starts Wednesday June 19th, 10-11:30am MST
- Teaching Children Healthy Sexuality (Church of Jesus Christ) starts Thursday June 27th, 10-11:30am MST
- Betrayal Trauma Healing Course 1 starts Monday July 8th, 10-11:30am MST
- Betrayal Trauma Healing Course 2 will follow Course 1 and start in September.
- Betrayal Trauma Boundaries Course starts Tuesday June 11th, 10-11:30am MST
For more details, check out the courses page. And email to sign up!
Summer can be crazy, if you have to miss a week, you can make it up, or a temporary recording can be made available (based on the consent of other participants).
If you want a course but can’t take it during the offered time, let me know, I’d love to try and accommodate you now or in the future. I do occasionally add additional courses.
Let me answer your question with a true story. Recently I spoke with a grandmother. Her daughter and son-in-law had small children and had installed filters on their computers and phones. They thought their children were safe. Grandma and Grandpa didn’t think they needed to be educated or concerned about this topic. After all, they didn’t have pornography problems and never watched scandalous TV. Imagine their horror
While you are certainly not the first parent to ask this question, fortunately the resounding answer is “No!” All the research indicates that the opposite is true. Not only are children whose parents talk to them about healthy sexuality less likely to be promiscuous,