I’m planning a number of short posts that are great small-conversation starters with children ages 9+.  These conversations are follow-up conversations, once you have had talks about the process of sex.  I tell parents it is helpful to say, “now we have talked about what is real.  Let’s talk about the destructive, unhealthy, inaccurate messages you will see in the media, maybe from friends, or other places.  These messages are lies.  I want to tell you about them so you will know ahead of time and can spot them quickly.  When you see or hear one, come talk to me and tell me about it.  I’ll be proud of you for spotting them.”  To prepare for these mini-conversations you can look for posts entitled “Lies About Sex” and can also find your own lies you want to discuss.  Sometimes your kids will even find one on their own!